Chasing Solace

11 thoughts on “Chasing Solace

  1. Thanks for sharing Rob. I’ve been asking myself these questions almost daily since leaving the army and working to set down roots.

    Here’s a quote I know, but don’t yet embody. Whatever your thoughts on Augustine…his influence has been around longer than Outdoor magazine

    “You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you.”

  2. My view is a bit different and i believe that solace is not static. Now that I’m 51, my view has changed many times. I think with each season of your life different things bring peace. In my 20’s it was all about adventure. In my 30’s it was all about my marriage, buying a house and raising a family. In my 40’s it was about achievement in work and personal life (black belt, mud races etc), in my 50’s it’s all about freedom, both time and money. Things are never perfect, but keeping a positive view and continually changing recreational hobbies as well as watching my teenager compete helps and adds a bit of excitement. For me at least, these are my moments of solace.

  3. As a 30 year old, I think there is a few things that are missing. There is a spiritual element. The Greater power can guide us to our happiness. The answer Isn’t likely more, but more service to others and helping one another.

  4. Such an interesting topic. I’ve taken the approach of viewing life as one large book that is filled with many different chapters. I personally believe it’s equally important to know when to close one chapter and open the next. I find the cyclic effect to work well with my lifestyle. Having focused on education and a corporate career in my 20s I saw how much adventure and challenge you can put to the side for the sake of achieving financial freedom; I never felt so stuck. Now being 33 in the military it’s a completely different chapter with a different storyline. I stay stoked knowing more chapters are ahead and are bound to be filled with the good, the bad, and the ugly. That’s life!! Thanks, Rob.

  5. Rob, this is probably my favorite article you’ve written! My take is that you have to find the solace inside. It can’t be found through external measures, money, achieving career goals, etc…..
    While those things are important and contribute to a good life. If you don’t address mental emotional issues you will still sense a feeling of lack, or that something is missing. Any way love the post I hope you find the solace you seek!!!

  6. I had to experience the chase to realize what I was looking for, I was looking for with. Godspeed my brother

  7. Going on 60, 26 years AF pilot, 10 years at State University, 33 years married, three kids, two grandkids. I probably fall into the first category based on these stats. You and I met at MacDill AFB in 2007/8 and I have great respect for your work and the contributions you have made in my training and in the lives of individuals and in the readiness/capability of our military.

    What I have found in my search for solace is that everyone is searching for it, something inside us is missing until we find it. I think it is more than coincidence that we all have this in common, it appears we were created with this desire. Why? Could it be that this desire was placed in us by a Creator, Who created us for eternity in a relationship with Him and nothing but this relationship will give us solace? This has been my experience, and in the surrender to live not for myself but for God and His glory not myself. When I am focused on myself and the past or future things do not go well, when I am focused on God and others and the present – things are “solaced.” CS Lewis said in one of his books, Mere Christianity:

    “If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.”

    “Human history is the long terrible story of man trying to find something other than God which will make him happy.”

    “God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.”

    It is a good read and a part of my search for and finding solace. Good hunting!

  8. People talk about peace, solace, contentment, satisfaction, even quiet, stillness, etc. All of which we know almost nothing about. Why keep searching for some END goal, Makes little sense to me. Fight, kick, run, jump chase, this “thing” which we have a next to impossible time defining, and even more eluding the achievement of that thing which we cannot even seem to define. Why?
    Because its spiritual. In the very nature of what IT is, must be outside ourselves. Thats why we can neither define or achieve it! Its not ours to define or achieve. Sure there are those who say, they are at peace, they are happy with their lives. Never because of what they have done, achieved, or built, always because of what has been done to them, for them, or about them.
    Stop chasing something that is elusive, everchanging, temporal, and self fulfilling. Please, you wont catch it in any meaningful or lasting manner.
    Enjoy the ride. Enjoy the blessing of being able to live each day. Take a really freaking deep breath. Then smile. Hell Yea. Thats solace, that is life. That breath of life.
    We proport our physical training as TRAINING, not lifting, not exercising, not workouts, etc. We all want to say its training for life, its not a burden its a joy. Well if thats the case, then freakin live like it is. There is where solace lies. With the effort, with the moments of each day, whatever the day will bring.
    Rip your hamstring in sprints this morning, gotta go to the doctor, cant train for two weeks. Gotta cancel that peak bag trip with your wife. Well to bad your focusing on the loses instead of. The opportunity to read a few more books, get caught up on a project at work, help your wife get some bonus cleaning done, take your grandson to school for a week. Met a nice doctor at the hospital who needed your interaction.
    God gives us solace opportunities, we typically miss them while we are chasing the beautiful butterflies we see flying around in our heads. We need to use our brains in finding solutions to our souls, not the other way around.

  9. 1st Timothy 6:11
    Philippians 4:11
    Sorry if it comes across preachy or offends the unbelieving. Not my intent, just voicing my perspective and path to solace, contentment.

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